ok.. sorry about this everyone. my computer was acting retarded again... [img]confused.gif[/img] *gomen nasai*
<font color="#660033" size="1">[ December 01, 2003 10:34 PM: Message edited by: LiL dEviL MiNeE ]</font>
**drum rolllll** time for another cultrue question!! ^_^
i hope i didnt ask this before..i dont think i have but its something i always wonder when i meet other people from diff countries or when i go to diff countries.
How do you say hello to people??
For me, I hug and kiss on the cheek my mom, dad, grandparents, and aunts and uncles and thats it! For cousins or friends..they get a whats up, a head nod, a wink, a glance..etc
and thats the way i like it...when i see people in the hallway a head nod is my hello. in the morning ur lucky if i look at you. during the day i say hey...etc etc.
now...when i go to panama you have to be extremely formal. i have to stand and hug and kiss all adults...even strangers. cousins also get the hug and kiss (unfortunetly i have a lot of cousins, 2nc cousins, cousin's cousins, so thats alot of people) for the friends who are of absolutly no relation they get a polite hello etc.
when i went to brazil it was a nightmare for me...cuz im not a hugger unless i want to hug. i dont like feeling obligated. but you have to hug and kiss everysingle person you meet!! i went to a party with my cousin (she's half brazilian, half panamanian) with like 30 people and had to hug and kiss everysingle one!! on the way in and on the way out! and if multiple people are leaving, its like 10 mins of people saying goodbye.
now everyone has their customs and im not knocking em...just curious to see how others do it. and if anyone wants to thoroughly explain the whole adding titles to the names thing...that would be cool to. i still dont understand when its proper to use chan or san or sempai or kun etc. and do they really do that?..do they have to add the titles or is that just a manga thing?
oh and while im at it...what about school? pledge of allegiance, anthems, praying, bowing? what do you do?? or what did you do, for the oldies ~_^ (hehe kidding)
ok.. sorry about this everyone. my computer was acting retarded again... [img]confused.gif[/img] *gomen nasai*
<font color="#660033" size="1">[ December 01, 2003 10:34 PM: Message edited by: LiL dEviL MiNeE ]</font>
well... let's see... i'm not a hugging person.. but then again, my culture doesn't really hug so i'm very glad. i'm korean and we usually bow and say hello.. that's for the older adults, and for those in our age, we just say hi, nod, wave, and stuff like that. we don't give each other kisses on the cheek and stuff.. and between adults, they shake hands or nod their head.
pledge allegiance? hmmm.. do we still do dat? i duno.. i came to s. kali when i was young but when i was there, it was like how we do it here. put our right hand near our heart and say our pledge. but yeah... that was how we did it when we were in elementary.
the schools in korea are probably like japan... we gotta get good grades and keep up the grade to get into jr. high, high school and college. and if you get into the top college, you get the future ahead and so on.. from what my friend said, they go to school then to the after school after another and come home around the night, do your homework, sleep, and repeat. so you really don't have a life.. but i heard japan is lot more strict than korea so who knows..
<font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">I hate that so much! I'm neither a hug, nor a kissing person. Specially when I don't even know who am I kissing! That's why I usually try to greet people either by waving my hand, or just smiling and saynig hello. The only exeption would by the relatives I know<=adults only *I have a huge family -_-*Originally posted by jadey:
now...when i go to panama you have to be extremely formal. i have to stand and hug and kiss all adults...even strangers. cousins also get the hug and kiss (unfortunetly i have a lot of cousins, 2nc cousins, cousin's cousins, so thats alot of people) for the friends who are of absolutly no relation they get a polite hello etc.
According to my mom, I'm a cold person and I should try to be more *feminine* and *socialize* more...Riiiight. I'm still not kissing strangers >_< !!!
<font color="#660033" size="1">[ December 01, 2003 10:56 PM: Message edited by: Countess D ]</font>
<font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">hahaha... somehow that sounds awfully familiar.Originally posted by Countess D:
According to my mom, I'm a cold person and I should try to be more *feminine* and *socialize* more...Riiiight. I'm still not kissing strangers >_< !!!
<font color="#660033"><font size="1">[ December 01, 2003 10:56 PM: Message edited by: Countess D ]</font></font>
[img]graemlins/thinking.gif[/img] Oh yes... it's what everyone say about me all the time. it's not my fault that i'm not affectionate like most girls. i just don't like hugging people... in general. xP i don't think it's in me.. seriously.. i have to force myself onto a person with a smile of course, but yeah.. this whole socializing is a *blah*
hmmmm... I am originally from Israel and I believe it is the complete oposite to Japan in every possible way - we are the rudest people on the face of the planet, broadcast our emotions to everyone we meet, we are loud, brash and have no respect for personal space.
we still hug and kiss if we meet but only if we like the person, its pretty much an informal ocasion whenever you go- most of the time you get a firm hand shake, even from relatives - and I mean firm!!! an israeli aproach to peoplle is to judge how much of a friend or foe they might be. so you will be wise to give a good strong hand shake and maintain direct eye contact and say hi really loudly.
we tend to be horribly missinterpreted as well because we tend to be over cynical - to make a pass on someone you like often involve mocking- *shrugs* don't ask me why - most countries have a system of politeness we have a very intricate code of rudeness.
we are actually very honest and open but we have very little social rules so expect chaos and confusion if you meet an Israeli for the first time.
I lived in England for the last 12 years so I milded out quite a bit (married to a very English Englishman ^_^ ). I am still amused at the politeness in this country - yes! Even in London!!!! it seems to be of the gentle hand shake or a peck on the cheek greeting. I danced a lot in France and there you give a peck on each cheek as you shake hand and exchange greetings - three pecks if you are in the south... how confusing.
the Japanese level of etiquette simply scares the living day light out of me - it seems so strict - so far all the Japanese people I met were really understanding when I explained what kind of culture I grew in and where really nice about it but I still feel like and elephant in a china shop everytime I walk into a japanese bookshop (ok - less so now as I walk into them so much I got used to it [img]tongue.gif[/img] )
all right- I can go on about all the odd things Israelies do for hours but I better stop right here or you will start hitting me with blunt objects >_<
mexico is the hug and kiss type, but mostly in the capital, in the countryside is just to your friends and relatives and only a hello and goodbye no matter how many times you see them in the day, but in the capital...it's a nightmare and even more in the school, everytime you have class change, to strangers, everytime, you have to hug and kiss, only if you meet a male adult you just say hello with a hand shake and if it's formal, you need to make this firm, if its a woman you give a little kiss on the cheek, but in my case i refuse to say hello and goodbye with a hug and kiss more than once a day, im so lazy for it. (^0^)
Considering I never leave my state almost, much less the country (USA), I do various things when I meet people. It depends really. If it's someone who's a lot older than me, or something like a friend of one of my parents, it's a hand shake. If it's a friend of a friend, I'll usually say hi. Most people don't even get a response from me though ;P Especially in the morning. Unless you're a good friend, it's best to leave me alone in the morning [img]tongue.gif[/img] I'm not a big fan though of overdone greetings. Just don't like it. Feels weird to me.
-Reikou
hehe wow so im not the only non-hugger out there. after i submitted i was afraid i would offend someone...hehe when i go to panama i walk in and say "big hug to everyone" to avoid the whole long process.
ah man. i hate it to when some of the girls and our school get so excited seeing eachother in the morning. cuz first of all its morning!!!! start of hel--i mean school. second, you just saw that person yesterday. or worse when they do that after every class. i mean jeeze dont exaggerate!
yah, me and morning dont mix. i always get yelled at by my parents cuz i never have a happy face on. but what do you expect! and then i get even angrier cuz they are disturbing my morning...and they they nag me and then i walk into school pissed off with an aura of war...then i sleep in first period and wake up fresh and happy [img]wink.gif[/img]
also..im not real big on hugging girls. i figured that out when my bitchy sister was being an idiot and saying how come i never want to hang out with her and never hug her or give her kisses...and always move away when they get too close ...errr this is coming out bad. but uh, its cuz there to girly. i mean theres a difference between being feminine and girly. im feminine...not girly. i think maybe having a twin bro gave me slightly boyish qualties
but back to the story...i realized,"hey wait...i dont hug any girls cept my mom or aunts." i never really noticed. cuz i do hug my guy friends....but never my girl friends..unless there crying or something. im not evil [img]graemlins/devil.gif[/img]
gotta start bracing myself for hugging in panama now..i leave december 24th and come back jan 7 i think.
yeah i hate when girls do that too; it's 7:00am for god's sake! i'm in a totally sleep-mode and they keep on bothering you until you say hello (kiss & hug), my mother also bothers me about being more feminine and stuff like that, but i just can't do such things, and even more with strangers or people you just saw an hour ago,it's pointless.
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